law.46

From the 48 Laws of Power.

Law 46.

never.appear.too.perfect

Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but even more dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.

lesson.learned.

growing up and into my young adult life, i always thought that the journey to self perfection was somewhat the journey of life. You figure out what your "problems" are, if you don't want them to be problems, you fix them, if you don't you relish in them because thats what make you YOU. i also thought that your problems shouldn't be visible to the world and everyone isn't in your business, shouldn't know your business, period {well, i still think that}. But I realized a lot last year that imperfections or chinks (sp) in the armor make others who even subconsciously know they aren't even in the same game as you, feel more connected to you. eventhough we all know that jealousy is a weak emotion, a lot of people still deal with it and just were brought up differently. -shrugs- because i wasnt concerned with being like the people that i was around and expecting to follow me at one point, i was me and fine with it. you do somewhere and sometimes need to have something or someone to relate to. being relatable as a leader is something that is paramount, apparently. your people have to like you but at the same time want to follow you because they know that whatever you're going to do, you're gonna win. you have to be able to seperate yourself as the leader or the boss but at the same time still be human to others and make people feel like you have a lot in common. its a delicate balance, man. but its something that if you can perfect it, you.win.

eerie.:read.this:.

you ever feel like someone who has never met you knows you better than people who you've been around for years?? yea. i read this article and it completely bugged me out, not in a bad way but kinda in a good way that I wasn't the only person like this lol. it was crazy accurate. Now every single part of this isn't 100% ACCURATE to me. a.lot.is.but.not.all. oh and for the record, i know i'm not a rockstar.technically, but for the overall effect and what i look for in women, it'll make sense. i'll respond to it probably like next week to it but i'd l-ve to see what you have to say about it. but read the whole thing {i know ya'll your lives aren't that exciting that you don't have time to read this} to understand me. so without further ado....

read.this.

http://www.anewmode.com/dating-relationships/dating-the-popular-guy/

read.&.discuss.

i.wrote.this.when.i.was.19.wow

Sooooo.I've been debating on putting this up for a looooooong time. I actually found this around the same time that I decided to start up this whole blog situation. Best part about it, i barely remember the "subject", i remember how i felt but remembering her, kinnnnda hard. but this is a poem i wrote around age 19.deeeppp.this is completely uneditted too.take.a.look.



As time passes on,
Thoughts of whether or not authentic feelings of our love ever really existed circle throughout my existence.
From times of endless smiles to now times of unanswered questions as well as an awkward period of silence
What-ifs used to run through my consciousness
Unknowing of whether everything that I sought was in you or I so deeply yearned for and gave to you undeservingly
In hindsight, things are easily understood,
As to why we do the things that we do
Your fear and my unusual feelings stand out above all else as to where we went wrong
Or could it be something as simple as a lie, a desire of one to need the attention of another with no regard for their emotional stability standing?
But it is said that that the actions of times past prove all truths to be self evident
Then yours in my life should be seen as one whose verbal requests do not correspond.
Visions of largely burning lights glimmer from your subsistence
But deep inside you, great distress and clouded thoughts of self admiration rule underneath the smiles
For it is not that a relationship was being sought out but rather a friendship that could’ve been developed
But was not for the supposed fear of feelings developed that would lead to love,
Since when is that a quandry for any man?
Never has one seen another desire so much to be loved but at the same time be so afraid of the things that that love brings.
For it is easy to seek love in one, where you see psychological dominance as an end result and can attain that with great ease
But to see one where the future with that person is the first thing that comes to mind, and deny love.
Are these actions because ones age supercedes their thought process
Endless questions of whether or not a potential love between two similar yet different souls run through my mind, thoughts that only you will ever know.
Feelings overcame my mind too quickly,
Which is not a fault of yours?
a challenge I sought and found more upside than any other situation that presented itself to me in the recent past.
The attraction of opposites and foreseen signs that let to an area of nothingness
But never has the one seen another so afraid


to be.



oh. and fyi. this was the last time i think i was nice nice to a girl -shrugs-



life.happens.

Don't Break Rules...or I'll Protest.maybe.

'Cause p*ssy's only p*ssy,

and I get it when I need it

-drake

november.18th

Weird to say this but, sex is no longer a necessary daily occurance (it was, at one time, oh it was), nor do I need it to be right now where I'm at in this life, it complicates too much and adds wayyy too much unneeded stress. Now this isn't because I like sex less or anything like that, anyone who knows me knows I l-ve sex and all that comes with it. There's just way more important things going on with me. getting it isn't the issue, its the convos and feelings that come after that i cant mess with. I've played this game TOO many times before to the point its damn near a script for it that repeats itself. We meet. We establish the rules up front like this is what its gonna be. Late night sex n such and that's IT. Maybe I stay the night cuz I'm drunk when I come over but that's the extent of it, we don't talk on the phone, we text and see eachother in person. But eventually, usually sooner than later comes the "well why do you only call me after you get outta the club?" question or the "why don't you come over and see me after class/during the day?" question. That was NOT the deal. YOU ARE BREAKING RULES! Based on my interaction with women, the whole friends with benefits and/or f.b. scenario doesn't work, sorry, someone either starts liking the other or someones feelings get too involved and peoples communication, or lack there of causes a lot of problems. This is why I think its a lot easier to have sex with someone you actually like because when you go in, you actually want then to like you. Like in dealing with someone who you talk to exclusively or someone that you just talk to on the regular. Like someone that you wanna "dick down" honestly and leave them not being able to gather their thoughts when you get done and really not have a problem with them wanting to talk to you because you dig them too on a more than sex level. This is not a new problem, its happened countless times but I just do stuff when I want to because I can sometimes and I have my needs just like everyone else lol. honestly but it gets hard because its damn near like clockwork, you know its coming, sooner or later. I'd rather have sex not only with someone that I like but moreso who I don't have a problem liking me. That's a lot of responsibility and when sex is included its even worse honestly.

Random Thoughts.10.11.:Damn.Network.TV:.

ok. THIS IS THE DISCLAIMER FOR THIS POST:recently my brain has been COMPOUNDED with wayyy too many thoughts that go allll over the place so please if your reading this bear with me its really scatter brained but this is for me to clear my head (please refer to my blogs rules if ur upset -Kanye Shrug-) #justsayin -

you ever think that sometimes seeing things on tv is like tooooo much like your life in certain aspects that you'd rather not touch on that you don't watch?? (Raising my own hand) oh.well I guess I'm the only one (highly doubtful but whatever) but I see certain things on tv it takes me to a very familiar certain place mentally 9 times outta 10. exes getting back together, people finding new l-ve, finding that new l-ve but realizing that they want that ol thing back, none of which is good for my subconscious mental state, honestly. All that stuff just touches home with me in a lot of different ways.
Lemme try and explain.
ok. So watched the finale of Entourage, currently my fave show on tv, I guess its not anymore b/c its over but whatever, back to the point, on the finale, E and Sloan (one of the baddest white chicks in the game, period, she might get a post at a later date, but ok back on topic again smh) go out on a date and E basically makes it up in his mind that he wants her, nobody else in this world, ever, but her, proposes and the whole nine. Everything works out too, but real talk, E took a helluva chance with all this, it almost blew up in his face but it didn't aside from everything before their convo at the place they went to go eat which was an #EPICfail. But it just was wild the places it took me seeing that happen. I feel like LOTS of people in this life have a "Sloan" somewhere in their past. You know that one where you saw that something, scratch that, everything about her was different , but because ur a guy and we're stupid, we let her get away, whatever the circumstancesand/or the stipulations were, she got away, period. You don't obsess about her everyday but subtle reminders of her, take.you.places.period. To be honest that episode just put the what ifs in my head like crazy. I hate being in that place because thinking about it you know where you were and why you were like that when you two were together. sh*t in lots of instances even when you weren't together or had other friends but somewhere, in the back of your mind, you knew that this could happen again. And to be REAL honest, you wouldn't mind it either just when you both were at another place in life. Yea, Entourage took me there, not gonna lie. And has had me on that damn Sloan train since I saw it no lie.

- you ever see the exact same thing as someone and get a completely different interpretation about what you just saw? Yea, happened with Entourage too. I saw that and thought of my ex, not you. Sorry ok?

-as far as these relationships and females in my life go. Nothing tooooo new right now. Maybe my outlook is what messes me up but i gotta few possibles, no sure books (i look at girls i talk to like a spades hand sometimes lol -shrugs-) But its getting cold out, definately about that time. I would l-ve to meet someone who intrigued me to a point that I wanna really get to know them, but I know what I want now at least (baby steps man, baby steps) which is a step in the right direction. You know I'm allllllll about progress so I'm making it.

-this is definately the longest I've gone without having a late night convo partner in a looooong time. seriously. Its really been a while, but I know that single was and is good for me and where I am but I know what I want. I just need someone who keeps me intrigued and makes my heart smile, haven't felt like that in a while and truthfully I miss it.

-ok I already gave it to you about Entourage but for as great of a show as The Game is, I will NOT torture myself by watching it. Toooooo many parrellels so and it shows the end of something that I'm not to the end of, call it a sense of false hope, call it unrealistic expectations, whatever you call it, I'm not watching that show. period.

okay -deep exhale- I got all that out, definately a good thing.

Peace & L-ve

B

.:Apply.Within:.

pretty, witty, girly, worldly

one who likes to party, but come home early

light kinda dark, short sorta tall

slim kinda thick, i swear i l-ve em all

-jay.z

girls.girls.girls.remix.

lots of convos have happened around what you look for or want in a potential partner, you've seen the trends, #wifeymaterial, #inagirl, etc. soo i decided to write it out. ok with writing this, I haven't read it anymore than me writing it so we'll see how this sounds. this is in no particular order, that might be the next task. Other order of business, all of these aren't completely necessary, some are more important than others but there are some that really are necessary TO ME. so with that said...lets see how this goes.

+Swagger- the word "swag" is such a loaded word in this sense. Whether its ya miss independent swag or your own attitude. I just want to find someone who's attitude and drive and personality can hang with mines

+Attitude-i gotta slick ass mouth, period of there's one thing that I know I hate but l-ve its someone who can talk to me and know that I listen to.

+Book Smart/Life Smart- there are like 3 sexier things than talking to a girl that can really talk about important social issues and really have an opinion and make you want to listen, 2 of them have to do with a lack of clothes just saying...whatever sue me.

+Walk in her own two foot prints not following and stepping in mines- someone who's life isn't just about me and mines and has their own dreams and aspirations. I want to be a part of your life, not your life.

+Sense of Humor/Witty-just like women, as guys finding someone of the opposite sex who's funny or can keep up with the conversation adds soooo much to the relationship and the fun of everything. I mean I don't need a Sommore like comedian funny but someone who is slightly sarcastic or witty especially both.always.a.good.look.

+Sense of Her Own Style-as much as I'm the star of the show -cough- I wanna find someone who's fashionably more of that than I am or just thinks about certain things like I do like even if you going to the store there's no excuse for just looking downright FOOLISH. Girls who like/care about fashion are sexy b/c it means 9 times outta 10 they like to look sexy. Sexy always works. For as much as I l-ve women in heels, I seriously l-ve women in leggings, a loose v neck, some shades and some sandals, Its so effortless but sexy at the same time. If I didn't have this thing for women's heels that would definately be number one.

+Comfortable In Your Own Skin- someone who's just comfortable and happy with the person that they are. you can not, and i repeat, you can not expect someone to l-ve you if you don't l-ve you

+A Good Heart- This gets overlooked by a lot of guys some girls are just genuinely good girls and that's something I dig a lot. Just being around someone who's a good person makes you smile.

+Willingness To Let Loose & Have Fun-nothing worse than someone who doesn't know how to have fun or who's "too cute" to have fun. Actually that makes you whack sooooo??? who's really cute now??? someone who can have fun and isn't afraid to have fun is so beneficial, people who take life too seriously make life boring.

+Secure- wow.ummm.this is one that I think is so important for overall relationships success. I think that someone who is secure in who they are and who they are with you is hella important. I've recently began to call insecurity D.O.R. Death of Relationships that and a lack of trust. Be secure in who you are, me personally I could care less about if you're on ya natural steez or your short hair game (which I am l-ving btw, like might be my new fave, but i still like everything else too, don't get it twisted), whatever just be you and be happy with who you are.

+Worldly- not saying you have to have traveled the seven seas or been to every area code Luda claimed on that old ass song with Nate Dogg, but just having a working knowledge of customs and a desire to learn about places and people who aren't your own is sexy to me. Just wanting know and not being afraid to go outside of ya comfort zone is dope and a desired trait.

+Honest/Trustworthy-need I say more??

+Presentable- I know I've talked about this on twitter before but there's nothing sexier to me than a woman who can look classy at work on Thursday, sexy going out to the club on Friday( I know we work on Fridays too just humor me for the mental image), glamourous and classy going to a black tie event Saturday and then appropriate at church on sunday....you.got.me.

+Accepting But NOT Completely Tolerant-men and women live our lives differently especially sexually (for the most part) around this age, so sometimes for women to hear the amount of women a guy has been with is a "deal breaker" for some. -cough- Grow Up -cough- One thing women have to understand is that this life that he WAS (notice the past tense) living, had nothing to do with you and you cannot penalize him for things he did like THAT before he met you or before he you it was gonna be like this between you two. He had no clue you were coming around plus, 9 times outta 10 guys just do all that "sticking n moving" just to fill time lls. Honestly. But at the same time we (or I) don't want someone who let's you get away with murder either. Sometimes with men were like children and you have to say what you mean and mean what you say with us for it to really register for us.We all need boundaries, the faster you establish the rules on what is expected the better communication is, the better the relationship is.

"I know my past aint one, you can easily get past but that chapter is DONE"

+Not Afraid To Speak Their Mind- relationships are teams, if I can't depend on you to keep it real with me if I'm wrong about something that happened with me and a friend of mines then who can I?

+Gets Along With The Family-this one is important, very important to me. My family is my world so if you can fit in and I don't have to babysit you and I can leave you alone with them and you can hold your own....respect reeeeespect.

+Being Considerate- This is personal for me. I think that consideration sides with respecting someone so like if you're considerate to them then that shows you respect them and vice versa. this is all the small stuff, say thank you, open the door for her, dont disrespect eachother, say sorry if you messed up. Therefore when you respect someone who you're with you should be considerate of them and their feelings, period.

ok. forget all the mushy stuff.

+Turns Me On and Vice Versa-ok. all that other stuff is very, very important but having someone who sexually takes you there is seriously important. you have to have someone who sexually stimulates you, you have to turn me on to keep me intrigued. I wanna turn you on too, like seriously lol. to have a great relationship I think its foolish to think that whack sex will help that progress. Satisfaction on BOTH SIDES IS KEY. as a man I can say that theres very few things that are sexier than your super classy girlfriend who everyone respects but at the same time whispers stuff in your ear that make you want to run not home but to the car and get it in. or the girl who takes you to Vicki Secret with her to try stuff on and then you end up in the dressing room with her....lol need I say more?

+And Of Course Beautiful-i mean I believe this goes without saying but I'ma say it...you have to be beautiful and I don't just mean physically(although I do mean physically too) , I mean an overally beautiful person. I am a believer that people have less problems when either a.the woman is more attractive by general standards (b/c men deal better with that, well the right ones and b/c women will openly hate more than men and it will become an issue in your relationship) or b. If the two people are comparable looks wise, you ever see just a good looking couple like two just looking people together? You can't say much bad about them huh? Yea see it works.

so. if this sounds like you. do like the title says. lol i'd l-ve to find out.

Forgotten/Never Sent Tweets

ok.i know its been a while but aijuswanarite like Musiq say so whatever. but as I'm sure most of you know I'm on twitter (follow me @KlarkKentdotkom harmless self plug lol), but I have certain rules about what I'll tweet and what I won't. Rule 1. no emo tweets, twitter is not the place for overly emotional-ness(i know i made it up just listen), its for witty commentary, going IN on various topics and getting the news on different things asap. but just like everyone else, I've had moments where I've wanted to send a few selective #emoparty tweets over the airwaves. Rule 2. read it before you send it, there are no do overs on twitter. Rule 3. have fun with it. this is more about rule 1 eventhough i have resisted on twitter, instead I'll share on here. l-ve this whole blog thing, damn.

-only thing missing is a misses.

-#fact "song cry" FINALLY doesn't take me into my own thoughts anymore, finally.

-mah girl luhh me, but f*ck it my heart beat s l o w.

-#fact no bullshit, at one point I would leave whereever.I was if I heard "No Air" over the system, like left shoe stores n the whole 9.smh.

-i still dont bang with Jordan Sparks over that song.smh.

-for the record, I'm single, off the record, I used to sleep with the enemy

-i will never be a prisoner of my money

-#imsinglebecause I still can't write or spell l-ve

-#imsinglebecause I haven't found a good enough reason to not be single -Kanye Shrug-

-sometimes, when nobody's around. i wish you were right here.

ok. so theres me being "deep" i guess, i'm sure I'll come up with some more soon. stay tuned.