...whymencheat/howtopreventit...kinda

i know, i know, you missed me like i missed YOU.

but let me get right into this one and ruffle some feathers.

enjoy.

At first you was somethin i denied

something i would slide

just to do something in the ride

but shorty, its something you provide

cuz the entree' aint as good without something on the side

ya know??

-loso

cant.let.you.go


So I was watching videos this morning {#dontjudgeme}, i saw an old school video that got me thinking, it was Loso's "Can't Let You Go", I know.I know a lot of yall ladies can't stand that song but its honestly and truly an honest song, so I figured I'd chime in on the idea as well as far as why men cheat. Want the real answer?

insert drumroll here.....

Look no further than in the mirror.....

I KNOW I just pissed some of yall off with that but hear me out. Of course I could say that "most guys do it because of insecurity....blah blah blah" or "he did it just cuz he's an asshole....yea yea yea", honestly that would be entirely too easy so I decided to look at it from a different vantage point. & don't worry I'll give you the real secret to keeping your man from cheating on you at the end too lol.

But I'ma just jump right into this too just so you know. Just like women, its extremely hard FOR GUYS to find someone who has everything you want so until we find that, we date pieces of women so that they equal up to a "whole" in our mind. Men have this crazy idea that we need to have everything we want, and if I can't get it in one person, then ill look for as many as I can until I'm fulfilled. Case in point, sometimes you have a chick who you can talk to, but who sexually doesn't do it for you, but then theres that one where the sex is great but there's nothing else to it then you have ya chick who just looks GOOD, period she's just pretty as all hell, she's the arm candy, but thats where it stops. but between those 3 women right there you have someone who looks good, who you can talk to and whos a freak........#FTW. Now you might have another who's just a rider, or another who's rich and well connected or another who can cook her ass off or another who's just a sweetheart. Everybody serves their purpose honestly, lots of times with guys, the girl who they cheat with, gives them something that their main couldn't, in some way, shape or form. BUT for the record I am NOT saying that EVERY guy cheats, but I am trying to tell you why those that do, do. Hopefully that was beneficial to you but now for the good part for my ladies.

How to keep your man from cheating.

everybody.listening???

1. Choose the RIGHT person for YOU.ok. I'm guilty of this my damn self but we know that everyone wants the model looks with all the trimmings but that's not gonna be the case for everyone. You know what you want and NEED. So if you're not getting that from jump. Why move forward? YOU'RE SETTLING!! Like if I know we have great conversation but sexually, there's no spark, and I know that, why try and play yourself? Lots of people get in these "realtionships with these epople who they know arent right for them because theyre afraid of being by themselves so they settle and end up pissed in the end. Be honest, don't settle and be patient.

2. Don't expect big things from little people.Kind of goes with no. 1 but whatever, if you're dating someone who you have bad feelings about, if you know their past and its shady, why you think it would be anything less with you?

3. Be DIFFERENT, Keep Him Intrigued.Ladies I can't stress this enough and the same for fellas too but BE.DIFFERENT. Stand.Out.put whoever you're interested in onto different things. Don't be like everyone else. Instead of going to the movies, go see a movie on the lawn Tnot right now in December, but you know what I mean), go on a date to the zoo, take him to a concert/show {yea, he'll bitch and moan about it, but he'll go and slightly enjoy it, maybe a little more} but know that he will alllwwwwaaaayyysss remember that he did that with you. I can tell you about all the "different" dates that I've been on, I remember I went to a ballroom dancing class, ice skating, bikram yoga, and I remember all those dates and people because they were DIFFERENT. Oh, and ladies the different thing doesn't stop on dates, you have to intrigue a dude in a lot of different ways, and sexually is very important too.. Get inside your dudes head mentally ladies! If yall are chillin at his apt or yours. He's chillin on the couch watching a game or something and you're doing what you do and you wanna spice things up tell him you wanna cook for him. do it in some boy shorts, a sexy bra and heels lol, yall might not eat the food immediately, but you'll most certainly work up an appetite lol. AND he'll REMEMBER that.

That's just a small one thing but I can't give yall everything lol. Now also let me be the first to say these things will not completely prevent your guy from cheating Ladies, SORRY. But what they will do is minimize the risk.

btw. you're all welcome.